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southboca
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 Posted: Thu Nov 30, 2006 3:08 pm Post subject: NLP: From stuck to disassociated |
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| It happens to everyone. You get discouraged. You blame yourself. Your problems don't go away. You are stuck. To move from stuck to success, it can help to disassociate from your problems. This means to stand back, look at the problems from an outsider's perspective and to try to create ideas to change your situation. After the first couple of goes, it's surprisingly easy and effective. |
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Jay
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| Posted: Sun Dec 17, 2006 10:29 pm Post subject: |
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Ok it sounds interesting but what is involved in NLP? What techniques are used and are there any side affects?
I often get discouraged and feel like im in a rut.
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Paddy Landau
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Joined: 30 Nov 2006
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Location: Oxford, United Kingdom
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| Jay wrote: | | what is involved in NLP? |
Big, big question. At its core, NLP is a modelling system, to let you copy - and then improve on - successful people. In your case, people who feel great and feel like they're getting on in life.
NLP also contains an ever-growing toolkit. The tools have been garnered over the years from the most successful therapists in the world.
| Jay wrote: | | are there any side affects? |
Are there side-effects? No, not in the conventional sense. Fixing one problem will often spill over into improving other areas of your life.
| Jay wrote: | | I often get discouraged and feel like im in a rut. |
Our body gets used to the familiar, and tries to keep us there. It dislikes change.
How can you get yourself to enjoy change and look forward to change? When did you last change for the better, and what motivated you? How can you repeat that motivation for change? How can you make "change" familiar?
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vigo
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Reframing is an incredibly useful tool. A few months ago I moved house and lost access to my Occupational Therapist, who was helping me with my mental response to severe chronic pain.
Using NLP techniques, such as reframing the question and calming exercises, I've been able to construct a "virtual OT" inside my head who I can talk to and work through problems with.
Sounds odd? Maybe, but it worked for Edison! |
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littlefranciscan
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| Posted: Thu Jan 04, 2007 5:44 pm Post subject: Sometimes I feel "Stuck" |
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So ..standing back ..and looking at it "from the outside" would be the answer? I feel that sometimes I know how to handle certain situations but never really get into handling the situation with the knowledge I have.
Example: People tell me I am too freehearted. That is, I give away things without weighing the value. I know I shouldn't always give away everything but sometimes I feel sorry for people. I know they probably don't need what they are asking me for; but don't have the heart to say "no" and so I give it.
Not wanting to say "no" or not wanting to "hurt" people keeps me from making the right choices with regard to giving away things or money. |
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