Hypnosis for Anger Management

[eireann]

My friend has a problem with anger. It seems like his anger often leads to bouts of depression, and he said to me that he wants to consult a psychiatrist and I also suggested hypnosis, but would you say it suits this particular problem? His anger is aimed at the guy who is preferred by the girl he likes.

[Paddy Landau]

I have found that both hypnotherapy and NLP can work wonders with this. CBT is also reported to have good results.

Personally, I don't like "anger management". To me, that just means either suppressing or redirecting the anger. Anger is an unpleasant emotion and reduces your ability to think clearly and act rationally. I prefer to remove the irrational anger and replace it with a sense of calm control.

Paddy

[eireann]

I called it anger management, but I think his condition is much more like the one you described. It's not exactly that he can't control his anger as in he gets ticked off easily and gets fired up, but it's more like he has irrational anger that I think would benefit greatly from hypnotherapy. By the way, do you need to have parental consent if you're under 18? He's still 17.

[Paddy Landau]

[bridgetjones]

I suffer with anger issues, i dont react to stressful situations very well at all and at the age of 37 im wondering if my habbit of flying off the deep end is part of my personality and can be changed. I would seriously condider hypnotherapy if it works as you say.

[Paddy Landau]

Anger is quite an easy thing to solve with the right approach. Hypnosis will definitely help. Find yourself a practitioner that you like.

Anger is "part of your personality" only inasmuch as it is part of your behaviour; and behaviour is something you do, not something you are. You can change it, and you'll be happy you did.

NLP also tends to work well with this, although not for everyone.

Paddy

[bridgetjones]

Yes makes sense, i guess its me trying to make an excuse for my behaviour by blaming it on a personality trait.
I will definetly look into it as i would love to deal with stressful situations alot better than i do right now!

[tina]

I saw a program that was promoting 'good ways to learn/study/get good grades' in which they were showing ways to control anger. Anger, they said, is a big factor that suppresses clear thought, and thus makes it harder to study and learn.

They took a bunch of hot-tempered students and gave them exercises to do. They had to keep an anger-diary and read calming sentences whenever they became frustrated. It sounds a bit stupid, but it really worked.

I think your friend needs a productive outlet for his anger... or something like that. I don't think you'd have to 'resort' to Hypnosis.

[Trudy]

I think suppressing anger would be dangerous. Wouldn't it be expressed in other ways that might be worse? We need our anger as part of our survival drive.

It is too bad that this fellow's anger is becoming a problem, but, perhaps, it is based more on his attitudes about women, ie "ownership", self determination, and control. His anger could be the expression of a deeper, greater problem.

[k2r]

why suppress the anger? stop the anger from forming in the first place before it needs suppressing,

is there a reason for the anger? is it, for example, road rage?

surely, "anger management" in those situations is nothing more than pattern breaking

[RastaKid]

Yes he should probably do Hypnotherapy.It's said that it would indeed help in this situation.

[PhoenixDawn]

Anger is so often perceived as "The Negative Emotion".

Personally, I've come to accept that ALL emotions are positive, since they all serve a purpose - including anger.

I ask you to consider that "anger" is only one letter of the alphabet missing from "danger" - thereby expressing that anger comes along to highlight to you that something is going very strongly against your personal values and therefore action needs to be taken.

I suggest that "anger" is an emotion of "action". Now, what action you choose to take is entirely your own responsibility - aggressive, assertive, proactive, etc.

If anger is a frequent behaviour, then it can be useful to work with someone qualified appropriately to help discuss what the anger response is about, and then work through it in a calmer, more resourceful way. So I agree with Paddy's response on that.

[Paddy Landau]

[flowerhorn]

Paddy, since you mention that anger can be treated by hypnosis, I am pondering whether we are suppressing it with hypnosis. If no, then how does hypnosis works in treating our anger?

[Paddy Landau]