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zerzis
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 Posted: Mon Mar 24, 2008 1:31 pm Post subject: Give me tips about fighting with the history... |
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| You will be confused, so let me explain. We deal with many people everyday and some of them are our loved ones. For some people I feel that they are really nice and very loving but their history is not so nice. In the sense in history they have done some acts which annoy you or say which you wont define as good acts. Once I come to know about such things, my respect, love or the overall impression about that person changes/reduces. The faith, belief in that person reduces and we begin to question every thing they do. Is it possible to live with such people forgetting their past? |
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Paddy Landau
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| Posted: Mon Mar 24, 2008 2:37 pm Post subject: Re: Give me tips about fighting with the history... |
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| zerzis wrote: | | Is it possible to live with such people forgetting their past? |
Anything is possible. The question is, would you want to live with them?
The answer depends entirely on your own personal ethics.
If their past behaviour was just something that you didn't like or disapproved of, but nothing serious (i.e. they didn't hurt anyone), then it's just your opinion against theirs.
On the other hand, if the behaviour did hurt someone, then I suggest that you take into account whether the people have put their poor behaviour into the past and learned from their lessons.
In my case, I'll never forget the past (I wouldn't know how), but I will forgive and let it go, as if I'd forgotten. And if the people have learned from their lessons, then I respect them more.
But, you must decide for yourself; you may not agree with me, and that's OK.
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zerzis
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| Ofcourse I want to live with that person. I believe they will never be bad with me. I can forgive, but I can't forget. But if you dont forget it hard to stop them from affecting your thinking in present and future. And when ever I remeber the past I feel she's a bitch. When I ask her about the reasons why she behaved the way she did, and explain that it was not morally correct, she answers that she behaved because of the circumstances she faced. But again should we forget our moral values in such conditions? |
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