Self hypnosis - your help or advice, please

[hypno-therapist]

[gilipsie]

So I have a question as a newbie. Is there different types of hypno's?

[jamesdeen]

Well, I have been trying. I have tried reading more fictional books and trying to imagine what is happening, to practise imagining things, but I'm as useless as ever.
Are there any tips or exercises you can think of that I could try to boost my imagination?

[Paddy Landau]

[jamesdeen]

I find myself somewhat frustrated at my inability to communicate what I had assumed was a fairly simple concept.
I would like to learn a skill. That skill being self hypnosis.
I know that people can learn this skill, and I would like to learn it.
I have tried, using the methods I mentioned, but have only had limited success.
I had thought that this would be an appropriate place to ask for assitance / guidance / advice.
I do appreciate your interest in my motivations, but I do not see how they are truely relevant.
There is a saying "Give a man a fish; you have fed him for today. Teach a man to fish; and you have fed him for a lifetime"
In addressing my 'lack of confidence' or 'excess of fear', however you wish to phrase it, you are metaphorically giving me a fish. Yummy. But I'd like to learn how to fish for myself, if that makes sense.

I am reluctant to answer your specific questions because to do so, I fear, would lead into a discussion that is at best tangential to the one I am looking to have. However, for the sake of completeness:

I think the concept of confidence is well defined and understood by many millions of people. I am well known among people who know me for being unable to coherently describe anything, but I will give it a go:
To lack confidence is be slightly fearful that one is making an error, or about to make an error, or about to find themself in a situation were they might make an error of some kind. This would lead to a feeling of uneasiness.
To illustrate my understanding further, perhaps it is useful to describe the opposite, namely confidence. This is a feeling of being at ease in your surroundings. Not worrying that you will find yourself in an awkward position. Moreover, it is a feeling of certainty or high probability that you will be able to cope easily with future situations without making any error.

By error, in the above, I include a broad range of things, including social gaffs, lapses in judgement, and life-and-death mistakes.


Stress is a word that is less well defined than confidence, but I can't beleive that you don't understand what is meant by it.
I mean, specifically, things such as being expected do/be/acheive/carry out certain things, and the pressure associated with having to live up to such expectations.
How do I male myself stressed? I strive to meet these expectations when I think that to do so is appropriate and beneficial.

[hypno-therapist]

jamesdeen,

Have you thought about sitting with a Hypnotherapist and learning the skill of Self Hypnosis?

[Paddy Landau]

[jamesdeen]

Hi,

This discussion has notw gone full circle, so i think it's in everybody's interest to bring it to a close.

Thank you Paddy Landau, and thank you too hypno-therapist.
You have patiently answered my questions, and responded to my rantings. I have been incoherent, awkward and rude and you have doggedly stuck with it, and continued trying to help me. Sincere thanks for your efforts, and persistance. I will follow up on the advice that you have given out, and I am sure that in time, with your help, I will acheive my goal.

[crunkyjens]

Wow it was very interesting to read through this post. I had no idea one could self-hypnotise themselves. What would be the main purpose of someone doing something like this? If you are under hypnosis how can you be in control of yourself to do anything, to make changes to things you want to change through this method? If that makes sense...hopefully it does.

[Paddy Landau]

[Barry Thain]

Let me say firstly that I don't think there's any such thing as self-hypnosis. I know of no state I can put myself in where I can make myself forget my name. But I can hypnotise other people and make them forget, well, everything. I can't do that to me.

If you go on a course to learn they will teach you to some method that will probably go like this. Count down from 20 to zero on every third out breath. When you want to come up again count from zero to 20 on consecutive in-breaths. The rest of the day will be padding to justify the fee.

That will get you relaxed, but it won't get you hypnotised.

Best wishes

barry
http://www.mindsci-clinic.com

[karmanetics]

why not try listening to the cd again, but this time concentrate on each and every breath. Breathing is usually controlled by the subconcious mind, if you do it, that´s one less task, and creates a link. never fails.

[Paddy Landau]

[R1986]

I found this thread pretty illuminating as well, reading it as a good introduction to self-hypnosis which I didn't know much of anything about before reading.

I think that a lot of times many people make the mistake of thinking that they can find quick or convenient answers in any kind of psychotherapy and hypnosis is no different. Many of these disciplines require comprehensive and ongoing research as well as commitment and determination in order to make proper use of.

Good luck jamesdeen.